Dress sizes can’t define, don’t let the world decide what’s beautiful

Hello Everyone,

I want to thank you all for the overwhelming amount of E-mails I received after my last post! They were all filled with kindness and love; I really have missed you all!!

Today I am writing to you all because of one email I got in particular! I received a very emotional and heartfelt letter from a high school sophomore.

She told me that she has always been struggling with her weight but has always considered herself to be beautiful! Until high school when people began to pick on her because of her size. She goes on to tell me that these girls have not only been embarrassing her but also have started to change how she sees herself and views her own body.

While reading this Email, I was almost in tears; no one should feel this way about themselves, and when these feelings are caused by the cruelty and ignorance of others, it is just so sad and it breaks my heart!

Now I can say that you shouldn’t listen to the cruel words of others, and only you can define how you feel about yourself, but in reality, this is almost impossible to do! Our peers play such a big part in our everyday life that it is so hard to ignore their opinions.

The best advice I can give someone in this position is to be strong, understand that you are beautiful and understand that there is a cruelty in this world that is not fair. Be the bigger person and don’t forget to put yourself first! Love yourself, know your worth and beauty, and truly love yourselves!

 

Love you all,

Michelle

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Hello World

Hello Everyone,

I must apologize for my extended absence! I must say I have been a very busy girl, most recently I have started grad school!

I was offered a full assistantship! Allowing me to go to school as well as get a great experience of working as a Teaching Assistant, enabling me to teach classes, and do some real world hands on research!

I just finished my first week, and so far I have no complaints, it is so nice being back to school.

Me and Tyler also through a celebration of our marriage, a second reception! As many of you know our wedding ceremony was planned ver quickly and even though it was fantastic it was very nice to have a bigger party that all our friends and family could attend!

It’s been a crazy and fun summer!

I am hoping to get back to you all more regularly; I am going to make an honest effort! I miss all of my web friends! Let me know if there is anything you want me to touch upon in the next few days!

Talk to you all soon!

Lots of love,

Michelle

 

Mindfulness

Hello Everyone!

Happy Saturday!

Today I want to talk to everyone about mindfulness! This is a post that my mother-in-law suggested but I didn’t know much about! After looking into mindfulness I realize it is the perfect topic for today!

So what is mindfulness? It is basically being aware of what’s happening the external and internal factors of life! It’s becoming aware of our thoughts feelings and experiences!

How can you practice mindfulness? Just make an effort of being present and aware. Some people choose to do this through meditation. Some people choose to do this through photography or Journaling; while others just set aside some time to absorb, realize and be mindful!

I hope you all take some time to be mindful and recognize these things that we so often over look in life!

Love you all,
Michelle

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Be Happy Be Bright Be You

Hello Everyone!
I hope you are all having a great weekend! Today I want to talk to everyone about positivity!
I talk a lot about staying optimistic and positive for you own well being and mental health but I think there are many other great things about being optimistic as well!
For one, everyone wants to be around  happy people! In the work place,at school, basically any where! People want to be around positivity! Looking at life through rose colored glasses is a great trait and people like to be around those who aren’t downers and who do not focus on bad things!
Sometimes things happen and can make the whole world seem bad. Sometimes you may not be so optimistic and that’s okay too! We all have those days. But in general I think looking at the glass half full makes you feel better about  your everyday life!
I hope you all decide to put on those rose colored glasses every now and then and smile!
Love you all,
Michelle

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Happy Memories 

Hello Everyone,

I hope you enjoyed your weekend!

As many of you know I will be leaving for Disney tomorrow! 

So today I want to talk to you all about anticipation! Sometimes life seems to be waiting for a different moment! You can’t wait for a vacation, graduation, your wedding, or whatever exciting thing you are looking forward to! 

But what about the moments we are living now! I am a firm believer that we should make the best out of all life’s adventures so don’t just sit back and wait for your next big adventure enjoy all of the little ones on the way! 

And when you finally get to a big adventure make the best of it and take time to sit back and just absorb a memory! 

A lifetime is filled with so much happiness and magic! Sometimes we need to just step back and enjoy these moments… Before they become just happy memories! 

Don’t ever forget that the best thing about memories is making them! 

I love you all,

Michelle 

  

Freaky Friday’s 

Hello Everyone,

Happy Friday! 

Today I want to talk to you about jealousy. Everyone has moments of jealousy whether your jealous of the woman on the cover of the magazine with the perfect body and equally as perfect tan or if your jealous of the girl in your school that has perfectly effortless hair!

We are all guilty of being jealous at some point it’s just who we are! But before you go wishing that you had their life try thinking about what really makes them who they are.

Having perfect hair does not make you perfect! The girl that you think is beautiful may have struggles in her life that you would never want to take on. 

The woman with the perfect body in that magazine may seem beautiful and elegant but would you want to be on a diet every day of you life with constant criticism from people who don’t even know you?

Our lives are much more then how we appear. People mask pain and hurt with smiles and laughter, you do not truly know someone till you take the time to understand why they are the way they are. 

So it’s true that girl might have beautiful silky hair but maybe she is jealous of you because you have true friends or a loving family! 

Before you decide to pull a freaky Friday and try to be someone else or something your not think of all the good things in your life! These are things that not all people have and others might even be jealous of you for having!

Make the best out of your own life! Laugh smile and love yourself! 

Love you all 

Michelle

  

Learning when to say no (Guest Post!)

Hi everyone! My name is Tyler and I am Michelle’s husband! Michelle isn’t feeling well today so she asked me if I wanted to step in and write a little something for you all! A little about myself: I’m 21 years old, and I’m in my last semester of my undergrad studying sociology. I also work at a residential treatment facility for juvenile delinquents as a youth counselor, and hopefully plan to work there after I graduate. In my spare time I also stream video games to Twitch! If you’re interested you can find me at twitch.tv/ttrites

Michelle said I could write about pretty much anything today, so I decided to write about when to say no. One of the clinicians at work gave me some advice the other day that really stuck with me. She said “When it’s most difficult to say no, for whatever reason, It’s probably the most important time to say it.” This advice really hit home for me because in my line of work I need to set boundaries and enforce rules that the residents don’t always agree with. But, these rules are there for a reason, and they are being enforced for their own good.

I really believe that this advice is applicable to other parts of life too. Sometimes with things like peer pressure or other factors in life, it’s really hard to say no to things that you have a bad gut feeling about. Or you might know that it’s the wrong thing to do, but feel pressured to say yes for any number of reasons. It’s times like these where you’ll thank yourself later for going with that gut feeling, and keeping yourself safe.

Now don’t get me wrong, new experiences are what makes life exciting and sometimes really interesting. But if you get yourself into a situation where you really feel strongly that you should say no, you should! Follow your gut feelings, and trust in your own judgement.

I actually really liked doing this! From what I can tell you all are lovely people and I’m so glad Michelle can write for a community that is as nice as all of you! Hope to see you again soon!

-Tyler

 

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Life’s little adventures

Hello Everyone,

Happy Friday!!

So today I want to write to you all about embracing what life has in store for and just going with the flow! I must admit this has always been a struggle for me I love planning!! I plan everything even a movie night at home…its planned!

But if my husband has taught me anything it’s that you can’t take life to seriously! If you are so wrapped up in planning everything then you will miss the adventure and end up disappointed!

I think that I am getting better at unwinding and just letting things happen. Since I’ve been doing this I’ve been able to just enjoy life so much more! I love when friends just show up at my door or a surprise road trip to where ever we decide to go!

This weekend my husband surprised me with a Valentine weekend trip! And I couldn’t be more excited! We are in the car now driving, I won’t know where we end up until we get there but I’m enjoying the ride!

I will keep you updated on my weekend! Follow my Twitter for updates! @inspirethegirl

Love you all ❤
Michelle
P.S… I have not been kidnapped!

The Wedding.. My Dream!

Hello everyone!

So sorry I have not blogged in the last few months! With the wedding plans my senior year and trying to have some sort of social life I have been BUSY!

If you follow me on any of my social media sites you know that I tied the knot! On January 8th 2016 I said “I Do” to my best friend and the love of my life! I have been loving my new life as Mrs. Trites and have been enjoying my happily ever after!

Since so many of you have been sending me messages asking for updates on what I have been doing or just to say congratulations I thought It would be nice if I could share some details with you all!

So my wedding day was perfect, it was actually more then what I had dreamed of since I was a little girl! The man I married is more amazing then any man I could ever dream up. He is the kindest, most loving man I have ever met. Not only does he make me happy but he makes me feel like no matter where I am I am home as long as I am with him I could never be lost! I hope you all wait for the right man because you all deserve to feel the way he makes me feel.

I’m sure that some of you who keep up with my life were shocked at the wedding date. Yes, it was supposed to be in September but sometimes life throws you a curve ball and you just have to go with the flow. We ended up planning an  entire wedding at a venue that was not practical for our needs. It was to small for the amount of people we felt needed to be there. So while we were on break from school we planned a wedding. Something that takes people months or even years to plan we got together in 3 weeks! and it was perfect!

Over the next week I will be posting a post each day with more details and photos of the wedding! I hope you all enjoy this, and thank you for all your love and support!!

 

Love,

The New Mrs.  Trites

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A sneak peak at our wedding photos!

Lets Go Fly A Kite

Hello all of my favorite readers,

Happy Thursday. Today I spent the day surrounded by children! It was an exhausting day but who could complain about playing hide and seek all day and watching cartoons. But really, spending the day with kids makes you realize how amazing a child’s mind really is.

In a child’s mind the only thing that matters is laughing, playing, and just enjoying life! They don’t think twice about what come out of their mouths they just say it, They don’t worry about the time or if they have to do anything productive in a day. All they care about is fun! A child can love anyone they may just meet you but within 20 minutes you’re already best friends! A child’s life is so innocent and light-hearted that they have no worries.

Doesn’t this type of life sound nice! Well, I understand that once we grow up we need to accept responsibilities, become productive members of society, and live by a schedule that has more then nap time and play time in it. But I dare you all on your next free day to live like a child. I dare you all to go out play a game of hide and seek or tag with your friends. Schedule a good mid-day nap after a big plate of chocolate chip cookies. I want you all to live one day without thinking, just running around worrying about what fun thing you will do next.

So get out there! Host a tea party! Have a water balloon fight! and Go fly a Kite! We all deserve a day filled with nothing but fun!

Love you all

Michelle