Hello World

Hello Everyone,

I must apologize for my extended absence! I must say I have been a very busy girl, most recently I have started grad school!

I was offered a full assistantship! Allowing me to go to school as well as get a great experience of working as a Teaching Assistant, enabling me to teach classes, and do some real world hands on research!

I just finished my first week, and so far I have no complaints, it is so nice being back to school.

Me and Tyler also through a celebration of our marriage, a second reception! As many of you know our wedding ceremony was planned ver quickly and even though it was fantastic it was very nice to have a bigger party that all our friends and family could attend!

It’s been a crazy and fun summer!

I am hoping to get back to you all more regularly; I am going to make an honest effort! I miss all of my web friends! Let me know if there is anything you want me to touch upon in the next few days!

Talk to you all soon!

Lots of love,

Michelle

 

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An Open Letter To My Readers

Hello Everyone,

I hope you enjoyed the guest post from my husband yesterday! He was very excited to get to know you all!

Today I want to write to you about why I made this blog in the first place! Yesterday was my 100th post and I celebrated 3 years on wordpress last week! I feel like its about time that I restate my intent behind this blog.

I started writing my freshman year of college. It started as a way to relieve stress and feel like I was putting some good into the world. I wanted to write to women who needed a confidence boost and a little bit of help seeing their self worth!

I am a true believer that everyone is beautiful and we all deserve to know it! When I first started I was just hoping to reach a few girls and help them with the words I wrote! I remember when I got my first comment saying I helped someone, it was the best feeling ever! Over time I started receiving messages from girls asking for my advice and opinions, this is where a good chunk of my posts came from, I figured if one girl is having these problems others must be too!

I was very happy with my readers I felt like even though I had few readers I was helping those who I was able to reach. But last year everything blew up! I started getting hundreds of subscribers a day and thousands upon thousands of viewers. I tried to keep up with the messages but I am only one person. I began to feel like I wasn’t doing enough for all of you and that I was inadequate to be trying to help so many people. My posts began to get less frequent and eventually I stopped posting for months at a time.

Quite recently I have decided that I can only do the best I can but I still want to help! I am back to blogging everyday and trying to help as many people as I can. I must admit that writing anything that hundreds of thousands of people are going to read is a little daunting but I believe that my words can help!

I  hope you have all enjoyed reading my posts over the last three years. Thank you for sticking with me, you all have told me time and time again of how much I have helped you, but you all have helped me too! You all have become my friends, people who I look forward to sharing my stories with. You have been with me through breakups, bad hair cuts, loss of family members, loss of friends, an engagement, and a marriage! So for always being on the other side of the internet I thank you!

I promise to do my very best to always be a loyal friend to all of you and to keep sharing love and advice!

With Love,

Michelle

 

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The Reception

The first dance, the cake, the toast, the parent dances! All the magical moments of a reception! The ceremony was over, and we were finally married. Time to just have fun, celebrate, and enjoy the rest of the night with our friends and family!

We all arrived to the reception hall; we were announced into the hall filled with our loved ones, and then we danced. Our song was Thinking Out Loud and even though we may be the world’s worst dancers, everything felt right.

The toasts were next; they were given by my husband’s two best men. They were funny, smart, and witty. We took our formal photos smiled and laughed.

We cut our delicious red velvet snowflake cake. We had our parent dances, me and my dad danced to Vienna by Billy Joel and Tyler and his mom danced to My Wish by Rascal Flatts.

After this the dance floor was open, and everyone danced until the end of the night!

My wedding was perfect! From start to finish, I would not have changed anything.

I hope you have enjoyed the details of my wedding I have shared with you over the last week! This will be the last post in my Wedding series. But don’t worry I will be continuing to blog about everything else under the sun!

Tomorrow is our one month anniversary, Its hard to believe that I have already been married for a month! This last month has been incredible I hope you all find that one special person who can make you feel unconditionally loved, it is the most magical feeling in the world!

Love you all

Michelle

 

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The Ceremony

We had arrived at the church 10 minutes before the ceremony started. We said a prayer and lined up for the march down the aisle. One by one my bridesmaids began to disappear through the doors and down the aisle. Before I knew it, the doors had closed again, and it was just my dad and me.

At this point, my nerves were at an all-time high. I had the same feeling you get right before you get in the world’s most intense roller coaster. My two cousins who were in charge of the doors were listening for the music to change as I began to hyperventilate.

The doors open and I looked up to see Tyler at the end of the aisle. All of a sudden all my nerves left it was just him and me. From there everything was perfect. I kissed my dad and mom at the end of the aisle and took the hand of the man who would become my husband in just minutes.

We listened to the pastor talk about what marriage means, Tyler’s cousin and my uncle read scripture, we let the unity candle, said “I Do”, and had our first kiss as husband and wife. Before I knew it, I was walking back down the aisle with my husband.

Everything was perfect, and we were married!

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“I want to Look like the Woman He Fell In Love With”

My alarm started screeching at 9 AM. After not getting home till almost 2 am from the rehearsal dinner it seemed to be way to early for this. As I went to press the snooze button, something stopped me. It was my wedding day!

Believe me, when I say I am not a morning person, but I was on January 8th. I knew I needed all the time to prepare for 6 PM. Just 9 hours till the walk down the aisle. My morning began with several texts from my friends and family asking how I was holding up so far. I was surprisingly calm for the morning of the day that would change my life.

I started with my typical routine a quick shower, healthy breakfast, brushing my teeth, and then on to the fun morning with my mom… First I got my hair done at 11, nothing to fancy just some lovely curls. After that, I got my makeup done at a different salon. To me, it was important that I looked like me. I wanted Tyler too look at me and think that’s the woman I fell in love with. The last thing I wanted was over the top makeup that made me look like someone else. I did not want anything over the top, but rather a more polished version of my everyday appearance.

After this, I had to go straight to the hotel to meet my bridesmaids and the photographer. At this point, everything started to feel real! I had three hours till I walked down the aisle, to the man of my dreams! I never doubted that I should be getting married, I felt like the luckiest girl in the world on the luckiest day of her life! But I couldn’t help but feel anxious, it was the day I had been dreaming of since my first fairy tale. A day that I have built up to be the most wonderful and important day in my life. A day that will begin my new life and finally join Tyler and me on a journey through life as husband and wife. All these things started to run through my head as the time got closer and closer to 6 PM.

I was surround by my family and friends, but all I could think about was the butterflies in my stomach. The excitement… the nerves… So many emotion! The photographer kept snapping photos of us getting ready, we posed and smiled and then it was time.

5:45 Time to head to the church….

 

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An Open Letter to My Bridesmaids

It’s one of the most important days of your life. You have found the perfect man and fell head over heals in love and the time has come to take the wonderful walk down the aisle to say “I Do.” The morning of is filled with excitement, anxiety, happiness, and the smallest amount of fear.

At this point, the most important people in your world are the girls who have dedicated their lives the last few weeks to listening to you complain. Complain, about the little details that honestly won’t matter, held your hand through the stress of planning, spent hundreds of dollars on a dress you picked out for them, and cried with you when you finally said yes to your beautiful white dress. These girls become your backbone and support while planning your wedding and become your strength and sanity the day of your wedding.

I would like to send out an open letter to the girls who held my hand through this craziness and kicked their heals off to dance with me after it was all done and time to celebrate!

Dear Ashley, Kelsey, Heather, Jill M, Jill C, Cassie, Jadelyn, and Brittany.

Your love and support has meant so much to me. Since the day, you said yes to being in my wedding you have been my guardian angels. It is an incredibly hard job keeping me sane on any given day never mind my wedding day, or all the days leading up to it. Without you, I highly doubt I would have been able to make it down that aisle.

You were there for every minute of my chaotic planning whether it be in person to hold my hard or over the phone listening to my anxiety and excitement. My wedding day was perfect; It was straight out of my dreams, and it would not have been this way if it was not for all of you!

I apologize for my craziness and stress that I projected on to all you through this process. Now that I look back there was no need for any of it regardless of if all the centerpieces were in the exact center of the tables or if Burgundy was a good accent color for the reception. It didn’t matter if I wore pink or nude lipstick and having the red velvet cake be the perfect shade of red was foolish. But regardless you all talked me down from the ridiculous worries calmly without trying to shake the crazy out of me.

You all were so special to me before all the wedding planning began and my love for you all has only grown more and more since then.

Ashley (maid of Honor) : You have always been someone I look up to. Growing up I could only wish that I would end up like you! I may not have picked up your good social skills, but you have taught me so much. You may only be five years older than me, but you are my sister and I owe you so much! I am so lucky that you are my family because we will have this bond and friendship forever!

Kelsey (maid of Honor) : Best friends since November 1st, 1993, how lonely you must have been for those six months before I was born lol. I am so lucky to have a cousin I was able to grow up with. Being the same age bonded us to share all of the crazy stages life throws at young girls. As my cousin I know we will always have a bond, no matter where our lives take us we will always have each other. I guess this is one of the best parts about having a cousin as a best friend!

Heather: My new little sister! I have never had a little sister before, but I am so glad I have you! You have always been so easy to talk too, since the first day I met your family I have always admired you! You march to your own beat and have the most contagious personality; you have so much to offer the world. I am so proud to have you as a sister!

Jill M: My new big sister! You are one of the nicest people I have ever met! I love how I feel like I always have something to talk about with you! Whether it be fashion, celebrity gossip, our love for the same TV shows, Bickfords, or new books to read! I am so glad to have you as a big sister; we have so much in common, and I always look forward to texting you after the new episodes of our favorite shows! P.S. I am calling Lauren B to win Ben’s heart this season!

Jill C: I honestly do not know what I can say to you that hasn’t already been said! You have been my best friend for 17 years and even though at this point we know way too much about each other and have spent more time together than any two people should you still are one of my favorite people in this world! I look back on any of my big moments in the past 17 years, and you were there for them all. From the first day of first grade till today you have always been there! You will always be my Carrie, and I will always be you, Charlotte! (SITC)

Cassie: Roommates are always friends forever! I am so happy that I ended up rooming with you our sophomore year! You dealt with my crazy then, and you still do now. You are one of the few people that can always get my to open up and just enjoy life. I also think you got the most of my freak out texts leading up to the wedding!

Jadelyn: You are the easiest person to get to know! You are so bubbly and open no one can help but love you! You have been there for me and Tylers entire relationship and having you in my wedding was so special! Thanks for dancing with me all night!

Brittany: My new cousin! First I can’t believe we went to the same high school and never knew each other! You are a life saver, and I am so glad you were apart of my special day! When we told everyone at Christmas we would be getting married in 2 weeks I was nervous how everyone would take it, but you were so excited and supportive all my anxiety instantly left. I was already excited to be saying I do but somehow you made me even more excited! I am so glad that you and I are family!

You all are so beautiful inside and out! You looked stunning in your navy dresses, I love each and every one of you! I owe you all so much more than a letter! You all will forever be my girls, best friends, family, and bridesmaids!

 

Love

Michelle ❤

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The Wedding Planning!

If you ever want to test your mental health try planning a wedding in three weeks! From the dress to the church to the reception to the music to the food to the suit to the guests there is so much to think about when planning a wedding!

I was very lucky I had a great support system with my husband, parents, in-laws, and wedding party. Even thought these three weeks were filled with stress I look back on them with such fondness! These were the days that I planned one of the most important days of my life!

We started by picking the church. We decided on the church that my husband has gone to since he was a child. It was beautiful, and the pastor was amazing. We picked our date based on the availability of the church and then everything started to fall into place. I found my dress at Davids Bridal, was able to get it altered, so it was done the day before the wedding. My eight bridesmaids looked beautiful in short navy dresses, and Tyler would wear a navy suit and his groomsmen a navy suit coats with khaki pants.

Since our wedding was just after new years with plenty of snow on the ground, we decided to keep it a winter theme. We found decorations and favors easily since everything was still on sale from after Christmas. We ordered our seating chart and guest book tree off of etsy.

We had the reception at the Tewksbury Country Club, which is absolutely beautiful and perfect for our wedding. We picked our food off their menu which included, hamburger sliders, coconut chicken, grilled cheese and tomato soup, and a pasta bar. Our photographer moved the date so that she could do our wedding. My husband new of a great DJ, who graduated with his sister.

Everything came together perfectly!

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The Church!

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Reception Venue!

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Inside of our Reception!

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The Cake!

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The Favors!

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Our Guest book Tree!

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The Rings!

The Wedding.. My Dream!

Hello everyone!

So sorry I have not blogged in the last few months! With the wedding plans my senior year and trying to have some sort of social life I have been BUSY!

If you follow me on any of my social media sites you know that I tied the knot! On January 8th 2016 I said “I Do” to my best friend and the love of my life! I have been loving my new life as Mrs. Trites and have been enjoying my happily ever after!

Since so many of you have been sending me messages asking for updates on what I have been doing or just to say congratulations I thought It would be nice if I could share some details with you all!

So my wedding day was perfect, it was actually more then what I had dreamed of since I was a little girl! The man I married is more amazing then any man I could ever dream up. He is the kindest, most loving man I have ever met. Not only does he make me happy but he makes me feel like no matter where I am I am home as long as I am with him I could never be lost! I hope you all wait for the right man because you all deserve to feel the way he makes me feel.

I’m sure that some of you who keep up with my life were shocked at the wedding date. Yes, it was supposed to be in September but sometimes life throws you a curve ball and you just have to go with the flow. We ended up planning an  entire wedding at a venue that was not practical for our needs. It was to small for the amount of people we felt needed to be there. So while we were on break from school we planned a wedding. Something that takes people months or even years to plan we got together in 3 weeks! and it was perfect!

Over the next week I will be posting a post each day with more details and photos of the wedding! I hope you all enjoy this, and thank you for all your love and support!!

 

Love,

The New Mrs.  Trites

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A sneak peak at our wedding photos!

No Longer Looking For Mr. Right

Hello everyone sorry about the whole long time, no talk thing. You see a lot has happened in my life since my last blog post. For one I am marrying the man of my dreams!
I guess it’s true what they say, that you will know when it is right. It didn’t take me long after I met Tyler to know that he is my better half, my one true love, and my real life prince charming. After a few years of dating he proposed, he made the day romantic and magical and since that day I haven’t been able to stop smiling.
The day began with a trip to my favorite amusement park where we saw dancing bears and took train rides into the mountains. We got an early dinner at a common man restaurant where we typically go for all our special occasions. After dinner, we went to the beach where we walked along the boardwalk and enjoyed each others company. Tyler had scheduled a boat ride that had been rained out because of the unexpected weather. So we then went bowling and to an arcade (and if you know me, you know that’s my idea of heaven). When we got back to our house he got down on one knee and asked me to be his wife.
I honestly believe I am the luckiest girl in the world to be blessed with this amazing man as my future husband. We have begun planning all the details from the wedding party to the venue and date.  It’s amazing to be planning every detail of the day that will start the rest of our lives together.
The happiness and love that I feel is beyond anything that I could ever imagine. And I hope that all of you experience this same joy and pure happiness. This brings me to the lesson/rant of this post.  So many of you have written to me about relationships you are settling with or relationships are harmful in different ways.  Love is an amazing feeling, one that is hard to describe. It is a feeling of overwhelming joy, joy that you only feel when you are with the other person. It is a feeling of peace knowing that no matter what hardships are to happen you will always be where you belong as long as you are with your other half. Everyone deserves to feel this way it is a sense of truly belonging and a sense of comfort knowing you have met someone who will walk with you through all twists and turns of life.
To settle for the wrong person will not allow you to be blessed with these feelings that make up the joy of love. And for those who are in a relationship that is not exactly healthy you need to realize that love is supposed to be joyful, sweet, and peaceful. Any sort of abuse is not love and if your partner is not respectful of your body or your feelings you need to realize your worth and respect yourself enough to set your standards higher and hold whoever you allow into your heart up to those standards.
Trust me when I tell you waiting for Mr. Right is worth it. Never settle in love because true love is something worth living for. I understand that I am one of the lucky few who found the person who makes me feel so loved at such a young age. But I must tell you all this feeling is worth waiting for, it truly is a feeling of a lifetime.

Love you All

Michelle ❤

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