Dress sizes can’t define, don’t let the world decide what’s beautiful

Hello Everyone,

I want to thank you all for the overwhelming amount of E-mails I received after my last post! They were all filled with kindness and love; I really have missed you all!!

Today I am writing to you all because of one email I got in particular! I received a very emotional and heartfelt letter from a high school sophomore.

She told me that she has always been struggling with her weight but has always considered herself to be beautiful! Until high school when people began to pick on her because of her size. She goes on to tell me that these girls have not only been embarrassing her but also have started to change how she sees herself and views her own body.

While reading this Email, I was almost in tears; no one should feel this way about themselves, and when these feelings are caused by the cruelty and ignorance of others, it is just so sad and it breaks my heart!

Now I can say that you shouldn’t listen to the cruel words of others, and only you can define how you feel about yourself, but in reality, this is almost impossible to do! Our peers play such a big part in our everyday life that it is so hard to ignore their opinions.

The best advice I can give someone in this position is to be strong, understand that you are beautiful and understand that there is a cruelty in this world that is not fair. Be the bigger person and don’t forget to put yourself first! Love yourself, know your worth and beauty, and truly love yourselves!

 

Love you all,

Michelle

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Hello World

Hello Everyone,

I must apologize for my extended absence! I must say I have been a very busy girl, most recently I have started grad school!

I was offered a full assistantship! Allowing me to go to school as well as get a great experience of working as a Teaching Assistant, enabling me to teach classes, and do some real world hands on research!

I just finished my first week, and so far I have no complaints, it is so nice being back to school.

Me and Tyler also through a celebration of our marriage, a second reception! As many of you know our wedding ceremony was planned ver quickly and even though it was fantastic it was very nice to have a bigger party that all our friends and family could attend!

It’s been a crazy and fun summer!

I am hoping to get back to you all more regularly; I am going to make an honest effort! I miss all of my web friends! Let me know if there is anything you want me to touch upon in the next few days!

Talk to you all soon!

Lots of love,

Michelle

 

Freaky Friday’s 

Hello Everyone,

Happy Friday! 

Today I want to talk to you about jealousy. Everyone has moments of jealousy whether your jealous of the woman on the cover of the magazine with the perfect body and equally as perfect tan or if your jealous of the girl in your school that has perfectly effortless hair!

We are all guilty of being jealous at some point it’s just who we are! But before you go wishing that you had their life try thinking about what really makes them who they are.

Having perfect hair does not make you perfect! The girl that you think is beautiful may have struggles in her life that you would never want to take on. 

The woman with the perfect body in that magazine may seem beautiful and elegant but would you want to be on a diet every day of you life with constant criticism from people who don’t even know you?

Our lives are much more then how we appear. People mask pain and hurt with smiles and laughter, you do not truly know someone till you take the time to understand why they are the way they are. 

So it’s true that girl might have beautiful silky hair but maybe she is jealous of you because you have true friends or a loving family! 

Before you decide to pull a freaky Friday and try to be someone else or something your not think of all the good things in your life! These are things that not all people have and others might even be jealous of you for having!

Make the best out of your own life! Laugh smile and love yourself! 

Love you all 

Michelle

  

The Reception

The first dance, the cake, the toast, the parent dances! All the magical moments of a reception! The ceremony was over, and we were finally married. Time to just have fun, celebrate, and enjoy the rest of the night with our friends and family!

We all arrived to the reception hall; we were announced into the hall filled with our loved ones, and then we danced. Our song was Thinking Out Loud and even though we may be the world’s worst dancers, everything felt right.

The toasts were next; they were given by my husband’s two best men. They were funny, smart, and witty. We took our formal photos smiled and laughed.

We cut our delicious red velvet snowflake cake. We had our parent dances, me and my dad danced to Vienna by Billy Joel and Tyler and his mom danced to My Wish by Rascal Flatts.

After this the dance floor was open, and everyone danced until the end of the night!

My wedding was perfect! From start to finish, I would not have changed anything.

I hope you have enjoyed the details of my wedding I have shared with you over the last week! This will be the last post in my Wedding series. But don’t worry I will be continuing to blog about everything else under the sun!

Tomorrow is our one month anniversary, Its hard to believe that I have already been married for a month! This last month has been incredible I hope you all find that one special person who can make you feel unconditionally loved, it is the most magical feeling in the world!

Love you all

Michelle

 

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Embracing Change

Hello everyone, Happy Tuesday!
Today I want to talk to you all about change. Summer is one of those seasons where you are waiting for change. Some of you may be moving into collage or high school. Others may be starting a new job, getting married, welcoming a new baby, or moving across country.
All these things I’ve mentioned are big changes some of you may be going through smaller changes as well. And everyone knows any type of change can be difficult to except or live through, but I like to think everything happens for a reason and these changes will benefit you in the future.
If you just sit there in your comfort zone nothing will ever happen your life will remain exactly where you are know! For many of us we dream of a big future you know the dream job adorable little family cute house with a garden out back. Well unless you have all of that know you will have to embrace many changes before you achieve that goal!!
So for all of you who fear these new changes coming up take a deep breath and look at it as just one more step towards your future! Life is an adventure!
I hope you all are well!! Love you guys!
Michelle

Fast Times At Ridgemont (or any other) High

Hello everyone,

Fast times at Ridgemont high is one of my favorite movies, maybe not the most appropriate or morally sound movie but still one of my favorites. True, it came out before I was born but its still great. For all of you who don’t wish they lived in the decade before your birth let me tell you what the movies about. Relationships, drugs, sex, gambling, and way too much drama you know typical over dramatized teen movie. Now my post really has nothing to do with this movie other then the fact that I thought it would make for a catchy title.

Anyway….

I wanted to write to all of my high school readers today. Those who are about to graduate, head off to college, join the military, or work on a career. At this point in your life, you are about to go head to head with a whole lot of change and choices. Which college should I go to, what should I major in, do I want to take this job or that one, am I ready for the military? What every question you are looking to answer you should know that the only one who can answer them is you.

By saying this, I know I sound like a broken record or some sort of self-help pamphlet, but it’s true. For the first time, you all are facing what it’s like to make life altering decisions. It’s scary! I’ve been there just like so many others. The best advice I can give you is to listen to yourself, do what feels right and know when to politely ignore others opinions.

You are about to move on to a very different time in your life. It is the intermediate stage, where you learn how to become an adult. Whether you stay in the same town or move to a different country you will all experience change a lot of changes. Like trying to keep relationships with your friends from your hometown whether you or your friend moves away you should be prepared to put in the extra effort to keep these relationships strong. You also will need to learn to manage your money, your time, and your priorities. It is important to keep your morals and priorities your own in times of drastic change, sometimes people can get swept up in a new lifestyle because that’s what they think they should do what they are in new situations.

I am not saying any of this to scare you. But actually to do the opposite! I am saying this to help prepare you so you will thrive and smile through these obstacles in your life. But remember the last few months that you have left before these changes occur, enjoy it! Your high school experience may have seemed long but looking back you will think it flew by. Just like the times you are about to experience, you will look back and all this will seem so short so enjoy it while your living it!!

Good Luck ❤

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Guilty Pleasures

Hey y’all

So today I wanted to talk to you about stress, happiness and guilty pleasures. Okay moms don’t worry this will be rated G I promise!

Many people do not understand the amount of stress the typical teenager is going through. There is friends, family, school work, relationships, social media, jobs, crushes, bullies. OMG make it stop!! I get stressed just talking about this stuff. I lived through all these stressors at one point or another! So let me start by telling you the truth… Stress will never go away but you can manage it, embrace it and kick stresses but!

When I was in High school I dealt with all the stressful things I mentioned just as many of you are experiencing now! But when I got to college everything changed, sure I still had a lot of these same stressors but I learned how to conquer them!

First the most important thing to know is that you will be okay whatever it is take a deep breath look in the mirror and remind yourself this is your life you are in control!!!

Next find your outlet! This can be tricky for me it is either to watch my favorite movie (The Breakfast Club) Watch my favorite TV Show (Dawsons Creek) Or read my favorite book (Battle for Honor: Gates) But for you this may be different! Maybe you like sketching or painting or bubble baths or working out or singing. Whatever you like to do whether you are bad or good do it!!

Next, talk to someone tell you friend, mom, sister, boyfriend, whoever! tell them you are stressed or sad I know from personal experience sometimes you need to hear from someone else that this is not the end of the world or maybe you need a hug!

Finally, look in the mirror again! know that  you have calmed down you can see it, your beautiful smile, or your sparkling eyes! Know that you are you and that you are in control!

Love you guys remember your beautiful

XOXO

Michelle

Adding One More Miracle To My Family

Hello all you amazing readers!

First I hope you can all forgive me for my lack of posts and I do mean lack of posts!! I wanted to update you all on what has been going on in my little life. I am a Junior in college now still studying hard trying to figure out how I’ll be able to turn my passion for helping people like you all into a career. I moved into my very own home its very small but it’s wonderful because its mine! But most importantly my family welcomed a beautiful baby girl into yesterday morning. Her name is Milania and she is absolutely perfect in every way!!! Although I haven’t met her yet because I am away from my home town I am beyond excited for Saturday when Ill finally get to see her cuteness in person!! Ashley (the mother) is such a strong and inspiring woman, I know that Milania is going to grow up just the same!

In honor of Milania and Ashley I wanted to write to you all about change and love! These two things seem like they may have nothing in common but they actually have a heck of a lot in common. I’m sure you have all heard the cliche love is about compromise, but sometimes it goes more like: love is about change! which is not always a bad thing. Ashley’s life has changed forever! After yesterday she went from being a daughter, sister, cousin, friend, hairdresser, woman, ect… to being all that plus her new and most important title MOTHER!! Milania is a product of love and that love brought along this amazing baby girl and a lot of change to the life of her family! SO you can see change and love go hand and hand.

I’m sure some of you reading this are mothers or fathers and have experienced this positive and amazing change but for all of you younger ladies this may not apply to you for years! So let’s come up with a story for you all COLLEGE! I know many of my readers are in high school nd believe it or not college or jobs will happen for you eventually and you will have to face a lot of change! You will have to deal with moving away or having others move away and sometimes that is your love, this can be hard! You will not know whether you should give up or hang on. Well let me tell you, you have the answer I promise you! You are the one who needs to make that choice don’t let anyone else make that choice for you because then you are letting this other person control your life! Be strong and take your time you are young, you have time to fall in love or out of love many times. This can hurt but you will heal! I am not saying that love at a young age isn’t real because believe me I know it is just as real at 15 ten it is at 50 but  your heart will guide you and you will make the right changes for you!

I love you all your are amazing and beautiful

XOXO

Michelle

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Finding Things you Love

Hello everyone sorry for my lack of posts again with classes picking up my September has been stuffed full of books, quizzes, and late night studying, but hey thats the joy of college right? Well anyway I have finally found a time to get back to all of you wonderful readers!!

When I was thinking about what I wanted to write about I was cleaning up my dorm room! I came across my paperback copy of Battle of Honor:Gates. And it got me thinking about things that I love to do and what helps me distress when I come across my book I realized that there are things that I do with out thinking to help me go back to my happy place when it seems far away.

One of the things i like to do is this! I love writing to all of you guys and even writing back to the emails I get giving advice talking to my readers it really does make me feel like I make a difference in the world and when I get tired it keeps me going. When I get really stressed I love toread too.  That particular book, Battle Of Honor:Gates, I’m kinda obsessed with I have read it so many times that I’m pretty sure that I could recite it in my sleep. But when you find something you really love you just cant get enough of it. And this book takes me to a different world one of sic-fi perfection RJ Brousseau you are a genius.

So I guess what I am trying to tell you is find things that you love because the world can get stressful and you will need an outlet. Also find something that you find you are good at or you feel makes you who you are because those things will make all the stress worth it.

love you all and remember stay who you are and don’t stress the small stuff

XOXO

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