Hey Everyone,
Happy Monday. As you may have noticed we are in the middle of some big changes here at InspiringTheGirls.com
Mondays will now be all about makeup! Check out Kelsey’s great makeup look for our first makeup Monday!
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My Recent Struggle
Hello everyone,
I apologize that I haven’t posted in a very long time. After college life just seems to get in the way of all the little things you want to do rather then have to do.
I am writing today because I have experienced the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. My husband and I found out we were pregnant with our miracle baby earlier this fall. After turning my life upside down to make sure everything would be perfect for our growing family we found out our baby had stopped developing. There was nothing we could do but cry and morn this little miracle that we are never going to meet.
I waited weeks to have a natural miscarriage because I didn’t think I could mentally deal with the idea of surgery. It turned out that my body wasn’t able to detect that the baby had stoped developing and I had to go through the procedure regardless of how hard it would be. I prayed for so long to become pregnant and I knew walking into the hospital that day that when I woke up I would no longer be pregnant. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
Early last year my husband and I were told that we would have very little time to have our own child and after trying for so long it seemed like nothing would work. I finally gave up hope on having my own child, I started focusing on a career and looked forward to the day that we could afford to adopt or find a surrogate to bless us with a completed family.
Then this miracle happened and I can’t begin to tell you how much it filled my life and my heart with happiness. I would have moved mountains for this little baby. And although I know there was nothing I could do to prevent this from happening I feel as if I have failed my family my husband and myself.
I know one day I will have the perfect family wether that be by giving birth or adoption. But the sadness this has caused has been the hardest thing I have had to endure.
I am writing this today because I have felt very alone in this time and I hope none of you ever experience this sadness. But if you ever find yourself in this horrible situation know that you are not alone. So many women go through this but we are too embarrassed or sad or heartbroken to talk about it. This has not been easy for me to write but if I can help one person feel as if they are not alone it was well worth my tears.
I am very lucky to have a strong support system of family and friends who love me. But the truth is not many people know what to say or what to do to help. It’s a very hard thing to understand if you have not been through this yourself.
I love you all, thank you for continuing to be a line of love and support!
Thank you to all my friends and family who have showed me all there love and support. You mean the world to me.
Xoxo
Michelle


Dress sizes can’t define, don’t let the world decide what’s beautiful
Hello Everyone,
I want to thank you all for the overwhelming amount of E-mails I received after my last post! They were all filled with kindness and love; I really have missed you all!!
Today I am writing to you all because of one email I got in particular! I received a very emotional and heartfelt letter from a high school sophomore.
She told me that she has always been struggling with her weight but has always considered herself to be beautiful! Until high school when people began to pick on her because of her size. She goes on to tell me that these girls have not only been embarrassing her but also have started to change how she sees herself and views her own body.
While reading this Email, I was almost in tears; no one should feel this way about themselves, and when these feelings are caused by the cruelty and ignorance of others, it is just so sad and it breaks my heart!
Now I can say that you shouldn’t listen to the cruel words of others, and only you can define how you feel about yourself, but in reality, this is almost impossible to do! Our peers play such a big part in our everyday life that it is so hard to ignore their opinions.
The best advice I can give someone in this position is to be strong, understand that you are beautiful and understand that there is a cruelty in this world that is not fair. Be the bigger person and don’t forget to put yourself first! Love yourself, know your worth and beauty, and truly love yourselves!
Love you all,
Michelle
Hello World
Hello Everyone,
I must apologize for my extended absence! I must say I have been a very busy girl, most recently I have started grad school!
I was offered a full assistantship! Allowing me to go to school as well as get a great experience of working as a Teaching Assistant, enabling me to teach classes, and do some real world hands on research!
I just finished my first week, and so far I have no complaints, it is so nice being back to school.
Me and Tyler also through a celebration of our marriage, a second reception! As many of you know our wedding ceremony was planned ver quickly and even though it was fantastic it was very nice to have a bigger party that all our friends and family could attend!
It’s been a crazy and fun summer!
I am hoping to get back to you all more regularly; I am going to make an honest effort! I miss all of my web friends! Let me know if there is anything you want me to touch upon in the next few days!
Talk to you all soon!
Lots of love,
Michelle
Happy Memories
Hello Everyone,
I hope you enjoyed your weekend!
As many of you know I will be leaving for Disney tomorrow!
So today I want to talk to you all about anticipation! Sometimes life seems to be waiting for a different moment! You can’t wait for a vacation, graduation, your wedding, or whatever exciting thing you are looking forward to!
But what about the moments we are living now! I am a firm believer that we should make the best out of all life’s adventures so don’t just sit back and wait for your next big adventure enjoy all of the little ones on the way!
And when you finally get to a big adventure make the best of it and take time to sit back and just absorb a memory!
A lifetime is filled with so much happiness and magic! Sometimes we need to just step back and enjoy these moments… Before they become just happy memories!
Don’t ever forget that the best thing about memories is making them!
I love you all,
Michelle
Some People Are Worth Melting For
Hello Everyone,
I hope you all are enjoying your weekend so far! Today I want to write to you about friendship!
My mother always told me to pick my friends wisely. They are one of the biggest influences you will have in life! They are people who can help you by encouraging you to feel and be the best you can be. But they are also people who could convince you to do stupid things or lower your self esteem.
To me this was really important I believe that I did pick my friends wisely! My friends are people who are supportive and optimistic. They are always there when you need them and in return you need to always there when they need you.
I have been best friends with Jill since 1st grade. She is one of the most important people in my life and I have no doubt that she will always be my best friend.
I may have only been 6 years old but I understood the importance of friendship and how picking a good friend could help me in life! Jill has been through everything with me from first grade through my wedding day! I know she will be there to help me celebrate graduating college just as I will be there to help her celebrate! She will be one of the first people to hold my child one day. That is the best part of having a childhood friend grow with you! They become like family because they have always been there and always will be.
I hope you all realize the importance of friendship and that it really is not about quantity but quality. You choose your friends and let them into your life make sure you surround yourself with people who will help pick you up when you need it and will always be there during the fun and the not so fun times! One thing to remember… if you can fill one hand with true friends you are extremely wealthy!
Friends are important so pick them wisely!
Love you all,
Michelle
Why I Stand With Ke$ha
Hello Everyone.
Today I want to talk to you about a very sensitive and controversial topic.
In the news lately you all have heard about Ke$ha suing to be released from a 6 record contract with SONY Music. She has alleged that she was drugged and raped by producer DR Luke. A few days ago a NY judge made the ruling that Ke$ha will not be allowed out of her contract.
To me this is an extremely important issue to talk about. There are hundreds of woman and men who will fall victim of sexual abuse, assault or rape but because these topics are so taboo in our society many of them will not come forward about what happened. Ke$ha was strong and stood up she told her story to the world and in return was ordered by a judge to continue with this contract.
Ke$ha left the courthouse in tears because of this ruling. I can not imagine the disappointment and fear she felt walking out of the court house. To have a story this sensitive blasted all over the front pages. Just to lose a fight this important would be so heart breaking. My heart and prayers go out to her!
What I really want to push for all of my readers is the importance talking about topics such a rape and assault. No one should ever feel like a situation such as this is their own fault. It doesn’t matter how you are dressed or if you have been drinking. Both rape and assault are illegal and anyone who would take advantage of another person deserves to be held responsible.
You should not be embarrassed to speak up and tell someone if something this horrible happens to you. If you know someone encourage them to tell the authorities. Your body is your own no one else has the right to do anything to you without your consent!
I hope none of you ever have to deal with something this horrible. And I apologize for having to touch upon such a sensitive topic but I feel like it is important to talk about this so more people know that it is okay to come forward if they have been victimized by anyone!
Love you all,
Michelle
An Open Letter To My Readers
Hello Everyone,
I hope you enjoyed the guest post from my husband yesterday! He was very excited to get to know you all!
Today I want to write to you about why I made this blog in the first place! Yesterday was my 100th post and I celebrated 3 years on wordpress last week! I feel like its about time that I restate my intent behind this blog.
I started writing my freshman year of college. It started as a way to relieve stress and feel like I was putting some good into the world. I wanted to write to women who needed a confidence boost and a little bit of help seeing their self worth!
I am a true believer that everyone is beautiful and we all deserve to know it! When I first started I was just hoping to reach a few girls and help them with the words I wrote! I remember when I got my first comment saying I helped someone, it was the best feeling ever! Over time I started receiving messages from girls asking for my advice and opinions, this is where a good chunk of my posts came from, I figured if one girl is having these problems others must be too!
I was very happy with my readers I felt like even though I had few readers I was helping those who I was able to reach. But last year everything blew up! I started getting hundreds of subscribers a day and thousands upon thousands of viewers. I tried to keep up with the messages but I am only one person. I began to feel like I wasn’t doing enough for all of you and that I was inadequate to be trying to help so many people. My posts began to get less frequent and eventually I stopped posting for months at a time.
Quite recently I have decided that I can only do the best I can but I still want to help! I am back to blogging everyday and trying to help as many people as I can. I must admit that writing anything that hundreds of thousands of people are going to read is a little daunting but I believe that my words can help!
I hope you have all enjoyed reading my posts over the last three years. Thank you for sticking with me, you all have told me time and time again of how much I have helped you, but you all have helped me too! You all have become my friends, people who I look forward to sharing my stories with. You have been with me through breakups, bad hair cuts, loss of family members, loss of friends, an engagement, and a marriage! So for always being on the other side of the internet I thank you!
I promise to do my very best to always be a loyal friend to all of you and to keep sharing love and advice!
With Love,
Michelle
The Reception
The first dance, the cake, the toast, the parent dances! All the magical moments of a reception! The ceremony was over, and we were finally married. Time to just have fun, celebrate, and enjoy the rest of the night with our friends and family!
We all arrived to the reception hall; we were announced into the hall filled with our loved ones, and then we danced. Our song was Thinking Out Loud and even though we may be the world’s worst dancers, everything felt right.
The toasts were next; they were given by my husband’s two best men. They were funny, smart, and witty. We took our formal photos smiled and laughed.
We cut our delicious red velvet snowflake cake. We had our parent dances, me and my dad danced to Vienna by Billy Joel and Tyler and his mom danced to My Wish by Rascal Flatts.
After this the dance floor was open, and everyone danced until the end of the night!
My wedding was perfect! From start to finish, I would not have changed anything.
I hope you have enjoyed the details of my wedding I have shared with you over the last week! This will be the last post in my Wedding series. But don’t worry I will be continuing to blog about everything else under the sun!
Tomorrow is our one month anniversary, Its hard to believe that I have already been married for a month! This last month has been incredible I hope you all find that one special person who can make you feel unconditionally loved, it is the most magical feeling in the world!
Love you all
Michelle
An open letter to my Husband
My dearest husband,
I had a life before I met you. As you know before I met you I had my share of heart break that left me scared and scepticle about everything related to love.
I am not going to lie and say the moment I saw you everything changed but it didn’t take me too long to realize that you were the one who just might change it!
My bruises and scars from my experiences before you have long been mended. I was able to mend them with the realization of what I deserve! You gave me this realization with the way you treat me, the way you care for me, and the trust you have shown me.
My dear husband I look forward to our life together! Not just the happy parts but the challenges too! I understand that a lifetime can not be all smooth roads but I know that with you I will be okay. You make me feel strong with just a look and you make me feel peace with a simple touch of the hand! I know that with any challenges in life we will only become closer and stronger! I hope our lows are just tiny bumps in that road but I hope our highs send us strait for the stars!
I have hope that even when we are old you will still be the dorky boy who knows way to much about lords of the ring trivia and I will still be the quirky girl who accidentally dyed her hair yellow the one you met in the hall freshman year!
The love we have for each other now is so strong I can’t imagine a stronger love. But I have said that before and you continue prove me wrong each and every day as our love grows even stronger then the day before!
My dear husband I had a life before I met you but that was just life and this is life with love!
Forever and ever yours,
Michelle
