An Open Letter To My Readers

Hello Everyone,

I hope you enjoyed the guest post from my husband yesterday! He was very excited to get to know you all!

Today I want to write to you about why I made this blog in the first place! Yesterday was my 100th post and I celebrated 3 years on wordpress last week! I feel like its about time that I restate my intent behind this blog.

I started writing my freshman year of college. It started as a way to relieve stress and feel like I was putting some good into the world. I wanted to write to women who needed a confidence boost and a little bit of help seeing their self worth!

I am a true believer that everyone is beautiful and we all deserve to know it! When I first started I was just hoping to reach a few girls and help them with the words I wrote! I remember when I got my first comment saying I helped someone, it was the best feeling ever! Over time I started receiving messages from girls asking for my advice and opinions, this is where a good chunk of my posts came from, I figured if one girl is having these problems others must be too!

I was very happy with my readers I felt like even though I had few readers I was helping those who I was able to reach. But last year everything blew up! I started getting hundreds of subscribers a day and thousands upon thousands of viewers. I tried to keep up with the messages but I am only one person. I began to feel like I wasn’t doing enough for all of you and that I was inadequate to be trying to help so many people. My posts began to get less frequent and eventually I stopped posting for months at a time.

Quite recently I have decided that I can only do the best I can but I still want to help! I am back to blogging everyday and trying to help as many people as I can. I must admit that writing anything that hundreds of thousands of people are going to read is a little daunting but I believe that my words can help!

I  hope you have all enjoyed reading my posts over the last three years. Thank you for sticking with me, you all have told me time and time again of how much I have helped you, but you all have helped me too! You all have become my friends, people who I look forward to sharing my stories with. You have been with me through breakups, bad hair cuts, loss of family members, loss of friends, an engagement, and a marriage! So for always being on the other side of the internet I thank you!

I promise to do my very best to always be a loyal friend to all of you and to keep sharing love and advice!

With Love,

Michelle

 

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Learning when to say no (Guest Post!)

Hi everyone! My name is Tyler and I am Michelle’s husband! Michelle isn’t feeling well today so she asked me if I wanted to step in and write a little something for you all! A little about myself: I’m 21 years old, and I’m in my last semester of my undergrad studying sociology. I also work at a residential treatment facility for juvenile delinquents as a youth counselor, and hopefully plan to work there after I graduate. In my spare time I also stream video games to Twitch! If you’re interested you can find me at twitch.tv/ttrites

Michelle said I could write about pretty much anything today, so I decided to write about when to say no. One of the clinicians at work gave me some advice the other day that really stuck with me. She said “When it’s most difficult to say no, for whatever reason, It’s probably the most important time to say it.” This advice really hit home for me because in my line of work I need to set boundaries and enforce rules that the residents don’t always agree with. But, these rules are there for a reason, and they are being enforced for their own good.

I really believe that this advice is applicable to other parts of life too. Sometimes with things like peer pressure or other factors in life, it’s really hard to say no to things that you have a bad gut feeling about. Or you might know that it’s the wrong thing to do, but feel pressured to say yes for any number of reasons. It’s times like these where you’ll thank yourself later for going with that gut feeling, and keeping yourself safe.

Now don’t get me wrong, new experiences are what makes life exciting and sometimes really interesting. But if you get yourself into a situation where you really feel strongly that you should say no, you should! Follow your gut feelings, and trust in your own judgement.

I actually really liked doing this! From what I can tell you all are lovely people and I’m so glad Michelle can write for a community that is as nice as all of you! Hope to see you again soon!

-Tyler

 

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A Single Girls Guide To a Netflix Valentines Day

Hello Everyone,

Happy Valentines Day!!

I have been single for enough Valentines day to know that sometimes this day can make the strongest of single ladies feel down. But today is just like any other days! Stay strong woman and celebrate the love you have for yourself, your family, and your friends. Today is all about love; your Valentine can be anyone including yourself! So practice self-love today and do what you want, do what makes you feel beautiful, and do what makes you feel loved!

I spent all of my single valentines days in the most cliche way. With a carton of ice cream, a can of whipped cream and some great movies!

Bellow I will list some of my suggested Netflix movies that will make any single lady feel strong and independent. So here are my top 5 movies that are streaming now!

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#5

The Stepford Wives- Rated PG-13

This is one of the most entertaining movies on Netflix! What better way to realize how great it is to a strong and independent woman then to watch a modern woman take down a bunch of stereotypical “housewives” straight out of the 50’s. The movie is a mixture of a chick-flick and a thriller!

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#4 Crossroads- Rated PG-13

This might be the corniest cliche 90’s teen chick flick! But it’s great! What a group of old friends reconnect over a cross country road trip! It’s a great movie about friendship and finding your inner strength! Plus its a lot of fun watching a young Brittany Spears act! tumblr_mjadgcQUN11rl8rnpo1_500.gif

#3 Mulan- Rated PG

Yes, it’s a cartoon but it is also one of the best girl power movies ever made! Mulan is no damsel in distress; she proves to the world that she is strong, and a fighter, she doesn’t need a man to save her! She is one of my heroes, and the movie is one of my favorites!

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#2 Marvel’s Jessica Jones

Okay, so it’s a TV show and not technically a movie, but it shows how a girl can kick butt! If you are looking for a binge-worthy TV show, I highly suggest jumping into this one! It’s all about girl power! Trust me Jessica Jones is tough!

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#1 Legally Blonde-Rated PG-13

Well, I am sure you all know the story of the dumb blonde who decides to go to law school because of the boy who got away! Then find her true self and who she was meant to be! This is one of the best feminist films I know it’s funny, smart, and witty! Watch a very lost girl become a powerful and intelligent woman!

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So stroll over to netflix.com and catch up on some girl power! Remember you all are beautiful and deserve the to feel that way every day, even valentines day! Love yourself today!!

Love you all,

Michelle  ❤

To All My Valentines

Hello everyone!

My post today will be short because I seem to have contracted a cold.

Today I want to talk to you all about being safe on valentines day. I know a lot of single people decide to go out to bars to drink with friends and maybe meet someone new. This is totally fine and part of the fun of being single on valentines day. However sometimes girls can get down or sad on this day of they don’t have someone special to share it with. Drinking and partying when you are sad is never a good thing! It can lead to over drinking and bad decisions that you may later regret!

If you decide to go out and have fun, good for you! Why not make the best out of this holiday! But please be safe and think before it is to late and you are left with regrets that could have been avoided.

Its okay to be single on valentines day and you shouldn’t be sad. Valentines day is a day to celebrate your love for other people so who says your valentine has to be a significant other. It could be a friend a family member or even yourself. If you are single this valentines day enjoy it, and just be thankful for all the loved ones you have in your life.

You will all be in my heart this valentines day!

 

Love you all ❤

Michelle ❤

 

I Start Every Day with a Cup Of Tea & A Smile

Hello, everyone!

Happy Tuesday, I wanted to write to you today about being optimistic! I know that sometimes its hard to see the glass half full and that is a problem that must be fixed.

I am one of those people that try to see the positives. I admit that everyone and a while the world gets in my way and even I seem to become a downer. When I am sick, I am the worst a cold can put me in a miserable mood for a week. But even then it’s important to realize that the energy you put out in the world will always come back to you, and who wants all that negative energy.

My best advice is to start everyday positive! Eat a healthy breakfast, drink your favorite tea or coffee, and smile! A smile is the best way to stay positive. It makes you feel better and makes everyone else see you as a kind and open person!

I always start my days with a tea made with french vanilla creamer and a smile. I smile at myself in the mirror because a woman is the most beautiful when she is smiling, and who doesn’t want to feel beautiful?

A smile is just as contagious as a frown. In most cases simply smiling at someone will get you a friendly smile in return! The most obvious example of positive energy returning to you. Every once and a while you may get the downer who scoffs or frowns at you but that is their own problem and not yours!

Let’s spread positivity today and push the negative energy away!

I love you all!

Michelle ❤

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Rebirth

As you all know, I LOVE the Battle For Honor book series! I talked a lot about Gates in the past, but RJ Brousseau has done it again with the Sequel!

The sequel is called Rebirth! I am a strong believer that originals are usually the best but in this case, RJ Brousseau has stepped up to that challenge and wrote a sequel that has surpassed all my expectations! I honestly believe that Rebirth is even better then Gates.

Many of you had read Gates and Rebirth takes place right where we left off. Make sure you pick up Rebirth to learn even more about your favorite characters, as this book goes more in depth about each one of them.

A few of my favorite parts of this book are the way that RJ Brousseau approaches necromancers and vampires! He does not approach these in the typical cookie cutter fashion. He doesn’t fall into the typical stereotypes that come along with necromancers and vampires! The book introduces a new race and different classes that we have not seen before. Some of the elves are becoming unhappy with the way things are and just who is the shadow knight?

I do not want to give too much information away so that you are just as surprised as I was with all the unexpected twists and turns. I truly recommend picking up this fast paced book. Rebirth has a theme of never abandoning hope even through all the deception and betrayal. I think this is a great message for all of you because hope should never be lost.

Below is a synopsis of Rebirth as well as links to amazon for both Rebirth and the original Gates. I am anxiously awaiting the third installment of Battle For Honor!

The winds whip over the hallowed lands of Agora, as all they have ever known is now changing, everything sacred has been shattered and crushed to dust.  It has been six years since the dwarf capital Brinstone Gates fell to the invading elf army, but to many, it has been a lifetime.  Things haven’t been this bleak since the Great War oppression washed over the lands many generations ago.

The dwarfs have been allowed to establish a temporary home in MorBlanc, alongside the humans, yet they continue to be persecuted by both known and unknown forces.  Thorel is king and desperately tries to keep his people safe, while struggling with everyday politics.  Eagan, a former member of the human royal court, is now the sitting queen for the dwarfs, yet exactly where do her loyalties lie?  Thorel’s inner circle continues to support the king, although allegiances will be tested.

The elves prosper since their conquest, however life is now very different from before, and not everyone is happy.  Kenric is wrestling with his inner demons, unable to comprehend why he suffers as he rises to ultimate power.  He continues to remain obsessed with his plans to completely wipe out every dwarf, even as a larger goal is in his sights.  Celeste no longer speaks with the goddess, instead she longs for more power, and freedom from her ever distant husband.  Allies become enemies and alliances never before imaged surface, while the elves consolidate power, tightening their grip around the world’s throat.

The humans are growing tired of sharing their home.  Their troubled king, Travis, tries to find a way to deal with the public outcry over his decision to aid the dwarfs, all the while feeling his power slipping away.  The humans, as well as all the other non-elf races, are feeling isolated, and fear they may be the next on the elf king’s agenda.

The savior that descended amongst the dwarf people died by a single arrow, and with that, almost all hope died with him.  The avatars are once again dispatched to the physical plane, but this time without guidance.  Along with these heroes, a new evil is unleashed upon the world, known only as the shadow knight.

Magic is even more powerful, and more unstable.  Those that are able to control the energies are now able to accomplish great feats, or are consumed by the very powers they crave.  Witness the discovery of new races and lands, and watch the vampire clans unite to form an independent nation.

How does Thorel, the reluctant king of the dwarfs, respond to these new threats?  Who else will stand up against the elf conquest?

Click on the books below to be directed to the link!!  

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The Reception

The first dance, the cake, the toast, the parent dances! All the magical moments of a reception! The ceremony was over, and we were finally married. Time to just have fun, celebrate, and enjoy the rest of the night with our friends and family!

We all arrived to the reception hall; we were announced into the hall filled with our loved ones, and then we danced. Our song was Thinking Out Loud and even though we may be the world’s worst dancers, everything felt right.

The toasts were next; they were given by my husband’s two best men. They were funny, smart, and witty. We took our formal photos smiled and laughed.

We cut our delicious red velvet snowflake cake. We had our parent dances, me and my dad danced to Vienna by Billy Joel and Tyler and his mom danced to My Wish by Rascal Flatts.

After this the dance floor was open, and everyone danced until the end of the night!

My wedding was perfect! From start to finish, I would not have changed anything.

I hope you have enjoyed the details of my wedding I have shared with you over the last week! This will be the last post in my Wedding series. But don’t worry I will be continuing to blog about everything else under the sun!

Tomorrow is our one month anniversary, Its hard to believe that I have already been married for a month! This last month has been incredible I hope you all find that one special person who can make you feel unconditionally loved, it is the most magical feeling in the world!

Love you all

Michelle

 

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The Ceremony

We had arrived at the church 10 minutes before the ceremony started. We said a prayer and lined up for the march down the aisle. One by one my bridesmaids began to disappear through the doors and down the aisle. Before I knew it, the doors had closed again, and it was just my dad and me.

At this point, my nerves were at an all-time high. I had the same feeling you get right before you get in the world’s most intense roller coaster. My two cousins who were in charge of the doors were listening for the music to change as I began to hyperventilate.

The doors open and I looked up to see Tyler at the end of the aisle. All of a sudden all my nerves left it was just him and me. From there everything was perfect. I kissed my dad and mom at the end of the aisle and took the hand of the man who would become my husband in just minutes.

We listened to the pastor talk about what marriage means, Tyler’s cousin and my uncle read scripture, we let the unity candle, said “I Do”, and had our first kiss as husband and wife. Before I knew it, I was walking back down the aisle with my husband.

Everything was perfect, and we were married!

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“I want to Look like the Woman He Fell In Love With”

My alarm started screeching at 9 AM. After not getting home till almost 2 am from the rehearsal dinner it seemed to be way to early for this. As I went to press the snooze button, something stopped me. It was my wedding day!

Believe me, when I say I am not a morning person, but I was on January 8th. I knew I needed all the time to prepare for 6 PM. Just 9 hours till the walk down the aisle. My morning began with several texts from my friends and family asking how I was holding up so far. I was surprisingly calm for the morning of the day that would change my life.

I started with my typical routine a quick shower, healthy breakfast, brushing my teeth, and then on to the fun morning with my mom… First I got my hair done at 11, nothing to fancy just some lovely curls. After that, I got my makeup done at a different salon. To me, it was important that I looked like me. I wanted Tyler too look at me and think that’s the woman I fell in love with. The last thing I wanted was over the top makeup that made me look like someone else. I did not want anything over the top, but rather a more polished version of my everyday appearance.

After this, I had to go straight to the hotel to meet my bridesmaids and the photographer. At this point, everything started to feel real! I had three hours till I walked down the aisle, to the man of my dreams! I never doubted that I should be getting married, I felt like the luckiest girl in the world on the luckiest day of her life! But I couldn’t help but feel anxious, it was the day I had been dreaming of since my first fairy tale. A day that I have built up to be the most wonderful and important day in my life. A day that will begin my new life and finally join Tyler and me on a journey through life as husband and wife. All these things started to run through my head as the time got closer and closer to 6 PM.

I was surround by my family and friends, but all I could think about was the butterflies in my stomach. The excitement… the nerves… So many emotion! The photographer kept snapping photos of us getting ready, we posed and smiled and then it was time.

5:45 Time to head to the church….

 

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An Open Letter to My Bridesmaids

It’s one of the most important days of your life. You have found the perfect man and fell head over heals in love and the time has come to take the wonderful walk down the aisle to say “I Do.” The morning of is filled with excitement, anxiety, happiness, and the smallest amount of fear.

At this point, the most important people in your world are the girls who have dedicated their lives the last few weeks to listening to you complain. Complain, about the little details that honestly won’t matter, held your hand through the stress of planning, spent hundreds of dollars on a dress you picked out for them, and cried with you when you finally said yes to your beautiful white dress. These girls become your backbone and support while planning your wedding and become your strength and sanity the day of your wedding.

I would like to send out an open letter to the girls who held my hand through this craziness and kicked their heals off to dance with me after it was all done and time to celebrate!

Dear Ashley, Kelsey, Heather, Jill M, Jill C, Cassie, Jadelyn, and Brittany.

Your love and support has meant so much to me. Since the day, you said yes to being in my wedding you have been my guardian angels. It is an incredibly hard job keeping me sane on any given day never mind my wedding day, or all the days leading up to it. Without you, I highly doubt I would have been able to make it down that aisle.

You were there for every minute of my chaotic planning whether it be in person to hold my hard or over the phone listening to my anxiety and excitement. My wedding day was perfect; It was straight out of my dreams, and it would not have been this way if it was not for all of you!

I apologize for my craziness and stress that I projected on to all you through this process. Now that I look back there was no need for any of it regardless of if all the centerpieces were in the exact center of the tables or if Burgundy was a good accent color for the reception. It didn’t matter if I wore pink or nude lipstick and having the red velvet cake be the perfect shade of red was foolish. But regardless you all talked me down from the ridiculous worries calmly without trying to shake the crazy out of me.

You all were so special to me before all the wedding planning began and my love for you all has only grown more and more since then.

Ashley (maid of Honor) : You have always been someone I look up to. Growing up I could only wish that I would end up like you! I may not have picked up your good social skills, but you have taught me so much. You may only be five years older than me, but you are my sister and I owe you so much! I am so lucky that you are my family because we will have this bond and friendship forever!

Kelsey (maid of Honor) : Best friends since November 1st, 1993, how lonely you must have been for those six months before I was born lol. I am so lucky to have a cousin I was able to grow up with. Being the same age bonded us to share all of the crazy stages life throws at young girls. As my cousin I know we will always have a bond, no matter where our lives take us we will always have each other. I guess this is one of the best parts about having a cousin as a best friend!

Heather: My new little sister! I have never had a little sister before, but I am so glad I have you! You have always been so easy to talk too, since the first day I met your family I have always admired you! You march to your own beat and have the most contagious personality; you have so much to offer the world. I am so proud to have you as a sister!

Jill M: My new big sister! You are one of the nicest people I have ever met! I love how I feel like I always have something to talk about with you! Whether it be fashion, celebrity gossip, our love for the same TV shows, Bickfords, or new books to read! I am so glad to have you as a big sister; we have so much in common, and I always look forward to texting you after the new episodes of our favorite shows! P.S. I am calling Lauren B to win Ben’s heart this season!

Jill C: I honestly do not know what I can say to you that hasn’t already been said! You have been my best friend for 17 years and even though at this point we know way too much about each other and have spent more time together than any two people should you still are one of my favorite people in this world! I look back on any of my big moments in the past 17 years, and you were there for them all. From the first day of first grade till today you have always been there! You will always be my Carrie, and I will always be you, Charlotte! (SITC)

Cassie: Roommates are always friends forever! I am so happy that I ended up rooming with you our sophomore year! You dealt with my crazy then, and you still do now. You are one of the few people that can always get my to open up and just enjoy life. I also think you got the most of my freak out texts leading up to the wedding!

Jadelyn: You are the easiest person to get to know! You are so bubbly and open no one can help but love you! You have been there for me and Tylers entire relationship and having you in my wedding was so special! Thanks for dancing with me all night!

Brittany: My new cousin! First I can’t believe we went to the same high school and never knew each other! You are a life saver, and I am so glad you were apart of my special day! When we told everyone at Christmas we would be getting married in 2 weeks I was nervous how everyone would take it, but you were so excited and supportive all my anxiety instantly left. I was already excited to be saying I do but somehow you made me even more excited! I am so glad that you and I are family!

You all are so beautiful inside and out! You looked stunning in your navy dresses, I love each and every one of you! I owe you all so much more than a letter! You all will forever be my girls, best friends, family, and bridesmaids!

 

Love

Michelle ❤

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