Hello Everyone,
I hope you had a good weekend with your family.
Today I want to take a step back and just have an honest talk! I get asked and complimented on my positivity and optimism from you guys a lot! People ask how I can always be in a good mood and so happy. Thank you so much but the truth is I’m not always happy, no one is!
I’m very lucky to have a very nice life surrounded by people who love me and people I love but the truth is not every day is filled with rainbows, just like everyone else! I think it’s important for you to see both sides. So people understand that everyone struggles with the same things and everyone can relate to each other.
To be honest some days I am not my normal self. Days like today, where no matter what I do I feel like I am failing! When Emma cries it must be something I’m doing or something I didn’t do. I start blaming myself for everything and I start to feel things piling on top of me. I start looking at myself as a bad mom just because of the overwhelming feelings I feel at that moment.
On these days I feel absolutely alone no matter who is there with support or a helping hand I feel crippled by loneliness. The anxiety these days are never-ending and overwhelming.
I am lucky because these days are few and far between! Some people experience drawn-out feelings like these and suffer from postpartum depression. It is important to remind the moms in your life they are doing a good job. Being a mom is the most rewarding job but it’s also one of the hardest jobs. Remind them they are their baby’s whole world and they are doing an amazing job loving and caring for them! Remind them that they are not alone and give them a helping hand when they need it.
Show the moms in your life that it’s okay to ask for help. Show them that they do not have to do everything alone and to never feel ashamed or embarrassed or inadequate because they needed that help!
Listen to the moms in your life. Their child should be raised the way the mom and dad want to raise them, as long as they are not harming the child let them make the decision. As a mom you overthink everything trust me when I say if unless they ask they probably do not want your advice. Let them be the mom!
Mom shaming is a very real thing. Whether you realize it or not calling them out or telling them to do things the right way is shaking them, you make them feel inadequate and unsure of themselves. They are dealing with enough problems don’t do this to them.
Sometimes being a new mom is overwhelming, isolating, and scary but giving a hug and having a reminder that you are doing good and that they need to take care of themselves too is important. Sometimes they just need a shower and a second to breathe. A second to dry there hair or put on makeup to feel like themselves again.
I couldn’t be more happy to be a mom to beautiful miss Emma but I do start feeling overwhelmed somedays and I know that is okay. It doesn’t make me a bad mom to feel discouraged or anxious. It’s hard for everyone to have their life change so drastically and so fast! But I know I wouldn’t want my life to be any different and I know this baby girl is the answer to all my prayer and I know how happy she makes me! I am very lucky!
If you or someone you know is experiencing postpartum depression get help to talk to the doctor and your family. There is nothing to be ashamed of and you be able to feel better with help!
Love you all,
Michelle & Emma
